Congratulations—you’ve found your au pair match! Now, the waiting game begins. Whether your au pair arrives in a few weeks or several months, staying in touch during this period is key to building a strong relationship from the start. Below are five fun and creative ways to connect with your au pair before they arrive.

Tip #1: Keep the excitement alive

It’s important to remind your au pair that you’re excited and committed to their arrival. Regular check-ins and messages like, “We’re so excited for you to come!” can help ease any anxieties they may have and strengthen their bond with your family.

Tip #2: Plan a virtual dinner date

Set up a virtual dinner where your au pair can join you and your family at the table via video call. Former host mom Andrea shares, “It’s a fun way to show what your family dinners look like—chaos and all! It helps them feel like they already know you before they even arrive.”

Tip #3: Arrange virtual play dates with the kids

Get your children and au pair bonding with a virtual play date! Younger kids can enjoy storytime or sing-alongs, while older children can play games or do crafts together over video. Au pair Andre from Italy, even gave his host kids virtual dance lessons to connect with them before arriving.

Tip #4: Give your au pair the grand tour

Help your au pair feel welcome by giving them a virtual tour of your home, especially their room. Adding personal touches, like framed photos from their online profile, can make a big difference. Host mom Laura shares that her au pair loved seeing photos of herself in her room, making her feel more at home from the start.

Tip #5: Make it fun

Staying in touch doesn’t have to feel like a chore! Try using apps like Marco Polo for fun video updates, or get creative with pen-pal letters or a “Flat Stanley” version of your au pair to bring along on family adventures. Host mom Samantha, who has welcomed 10 au pairs, says, “The effort you put in before their arrival pays off in a lifetime of memories.”