Finding an au pair can feel overwhelming, especially if you're unfamiliar with the process. Unlike hiring a nanny, bringing an au pair to the U.S. requires navigating the J-1 visa program, which is regulated by the U.S. Department of State. This guide breaks down the main ways to find an au pair and offers tips to help you find the perfect match for your family’s needs.
Option 1: Use an Au Pair Agency
Most families rely on au pair agencies to simplify the process. A good agency offers:
Thorough screening: Agencies recruit candidates from overseas, conduct background checks, and verify references.
Training programs: Candidates often receive training before joining an agency's database.
Guidance and support: Agencies match candidates to your family’s specific needs and provide step-by-step assistance.
For example, Cultural Care Au Pair provides tools like the Cultural Care Au Pair Host Family app, where you can browse profiles and interview candidates. They also assign a dedicated placement manager to recommend matches based on your requirements.
Agencies provide peace of mind by ensuring candidates meet program qualifications and have the necessary experience to care for your children.
Option 2: Find an Au Pair Independently
Some families find au pairs through personal connections or overseas contacts. If you know someone—like a family friend’s daughter—who fits the au pair criteria (e.g., aged 18–26 and eligible for a J-1 visa), you can refer them to an agency to process their application.
Benefits of this approach:
You already know and trust the candidate.
Agencies often offer discounts for pre-identified au pairs, as they save on recruitment efforts.
However, you will still need an agency to handle visa processing and ensure the au pair can legally work in the U.S.
Tips for Finding the Right Au Pair
Regardless of your search method, it’s essential to identify the qualities you want in an au pair. Consider the following:
Age Preference:
Younger au pairs (under 21) may adapt more easily to living in a family environment.
Older au pairs may have more independence and life experience.
Country of Origin:
Do you have a preference for specific languages or cultural backgrounds?
Driving Skills:
Will the au pair need to drive your children to activities? Ensure they have adequate driving experience if so.
Infant Care Experience:
Au pairs caring for children under age 2 must have at least 200 hours of infant care experience, as required by the U.S. Department of State.
Start Date:
If you need care immediately, consider in-country au pairs who are already in the U.S. They may be available sooner than au pairs coming from overseas.
Matching Personalities and Values
Beyond logistical needs, finding the right au pair often comes down to compatibility. During the interview process:
Ask questions to understand the candidate’s personality, work ethic, and childcare philosophy.
Prepare a list of interview questions tailored to your family’s needs.
Ensure you feel comfortable and confident in your final decision.
Final Thoughts
Finding an au pair can be a rewarding process when approached thoughtfully. Whether you work with an agency or leverage personal connections, the key is clear communication and careful evaluation. If you need additional support, your agency is there to guide you every step of the way